You always have a choice.
To me, feeling trapped is the worst possible sensation. Its cousins, 'obligation' and 'commitment' also make me claustrophobic- and this is from a girl who loves squashing into cosy small places.
Perhaps in your life you feel like you are locked in. Like you have signed an invisible contract to people, places and routines that feel less than liberating.
I want to remind you that you always have a choice. And there is probably a darn good reason why you are choosing the life you live.
Why do I choose this?
This is a driving question that will have you feeling better or at least clearer about why you are where you are. Why do you choose this vocation over every other possibility? Frame it positively if you can.
· I choose this HR role because I have a gift with people and love to see the impact I have on the culture of my company.
· I choose to have my own business because working at my own pace feels healthy and natural for me.
· I choose to work in this highly physical job because I love the outdoors and have endless energy to expel.
Hold in your consciousness that you do not need to do today what you did yesterday. So why do you do it? Money? Connections? Comfort? Challenge?
And if you are stuck for answers, maybe it’s time for a change. What else could you choose?
For a little decision making booster, think about whether being where you are facilitates you being the best version of you. Does it bring you closer to your goals? Does it make you happy? What would it mean to not choose it? Is there an alternative that energises you?
Knowing that you ultimately get to choose how you live is so empowering. If you love it then you can appreciate it. If you no longer want it, you can take steps to make a change.
For me, I choose to bite off just a little more than I can chew because everything tastes so good. I choose work with intensive ‘after hours’ because it is worth it for the immense joy I feel seeing young people learn to learn. I choose to pay for a cleaner so I can create space for music, and pay for a recording studio to make sure I get shit done. I choose my husband because of his big heart and strong character.
I know that I always have a choice.
And so do you.
Let’s choose wisely.
Love for days…