We have become used to feeling bad.
Sad, but true. People tolerate minor discomforts, ongoing pain and suffer mediocre circumstances that are so easy to turn around. It is also a reality that depression is rife in our society and the accumulative effects of feeling bad make us identify with being 'depressed'. We also have been told 'no pain, no gain' and to 'focus on the big picture' rather than the moment.
I would like to share three ways you can feel good right now, so you can be conscious of how feeling good is a commitment and a choice.
1. What Feels Good?
Notice what feels good right now. What senses are engaged? What positive thoughts are popping up? What do you notice that feels nice?
It’s a lazy Saturday morning and I haven’t put any pressure on myself to do anything.
Having the entire bed to myself.
Knowing that I will have a cleaner on Monday.
Remembering the wonderful New Years adventure trip.
The birds chirping outside the window.
That feeling of hope.
It is meditative and a form of gratitude to observe lovingly the positive you find in the present moment. In the comments, share what you are noticing that feels right.
2. What Doesn’t Feel Good?
Now it’s time to consider what doesn’t feel good, with the intention of doing something about it. We suffer little discomforts that are unnecessary. Let’s do something about them!
The air is stuffy- so I am going to open windows.
I feel a little dehydrated- so I am getting water.
My neck is tense- so I am adjusting my position & scheduling a massage for this afternoon.
The fleeting thought that my website isn’t updated. There is no rush- I will put it in my diary for Monday.
Whenever you decide not to do something about these niggling sensations, you are choosing to feel bad. Maybe you have another priority, perhaps you cannot justify the trouble of changing, or maybe you have never known another way of living. Why do you choose to feel bad? You will gain some clarity once you answer this. Do share any revelations in the comments.
The third way you can feel good in the ‘now’ is to get clear on your life purpose, your goals and daily intention. When you know what it is you are working towards AND have faith that you will achieve this, even tedious or difficult moments take on a new meaning and start to feel good.
This year, think about what your grand purpose is and begin to align your day to day with this mission.
If this is an area you need some help with, drop me a line, and I will send you some further strategies and resources.
Otherwise, I would love you to share your mission statement, purpose or big goal for this year and beyond in the comments section.
Commit to feeling good.