This weekend I had to have a massive brain dump. Another headache snuck up and I had to ask 'Why the f*** is this happening?'.So I did the best thing I could possible do. I wrote down absolutely every niggling thing that was annoying me about my life. It seems like a pretty negatively loaded exercise, but the first step of overcoming any challenge is acknowledgement.
Here were a few things on the list (of about 30):
- Feeling terrible that I'm not speaking to an old friend over a misunderstanding.
- Not having gone to the dentist for too long to say!
- Being prematurely sad about not seeing enough of Milo, my best friends dog.
- My long interlude from karate.
- A massive obligation that I no longer wish to have.
- Putting 'work' over traditional 'being in my 20s fun'...
The biggest theme that kept arising in my points was not being true to myself or completely honest with other people. Allowing others to make me feel awkward.
So, my very first steps were to fight awkwardness with awkwardness.
Had 3 very open and honest conversations with three men (a family member, a friend and my fiancé), all about completely different and equally important issues that had been causing fleeting sadness, subconscious worry and making me implode.
What absolute relief and a new wave of energy I felt just by being honest and not letting things fester. The assumptions I was making were, as always, a matter of opinion and the people who care about me only want to see me happy. However, there was no escaping the awkward conversation that comes with the territory of mending relationships.
If you haven't heard it yet, listen to this short mp3 on speaking your truth.
Then hit reply and tell me now, what awkward conversation are you putting off?
When are you going to have it?
Once you reply I will give you 3 killer tips for these conversations so they go as smoothly as possible.
Lots of love,
PS. Here is a success sheet to help you with speaking your truth.